I ran across this post by Lauren Chandler, whose husband Matt is the lead pastor at The Village Church in Dallas. Simply put, it is the story of many people and the threat that their goodness poses to relationships with other people. My guess is that more than a few of us were 'the good kid' and while we grew up thinking that the problem was 'being bad', Lauren's post reminds us that our goodness can ruin us as well.
We had issues, just like every other couple. It was the same argument, the same frustration, the same disappointment, the same resolutions over and over again. It was insanity. Everything would be going along swimmingly for about a month and then something would set it off. We would be thrown into the same whirlpool, trying to cling to some common ground. Eventually, Matt grabbed a life line. He started going to counseling to deal with his hurts and hang-ups. I, on the other hand, continued to swirl round and round in disappointment in myself and in my resolution to "get my act together" and "be the wife I should be."
I just needed to read the Bible more. I just needed to commit to think of and serve Matt selflessly. I just needed to anticipate his needs. I just needed....
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